The Beauty Behind Waiting
Song of Solomon 8:1-7
Waiting for anything in the society we live in can be challenging. Our culture is a culture of convenience. We usually get what we want when we want it. We can buy something on credit, even if we can’t afford it. We can download something on our phone, instantly giving us gratification. We have more options and choices than ever before. This is also true with dating and relationships. Society has lost patience with relationships. If we find ourselves in a waiting period, waiting to meet someone, we often grow inpatient. Singleness is not a burden. Singleness is an opportunity that we can leverage for the Lord.
Romans 12:2 says to not be conformed to this world. We shouldn't judge our lives compared to how the world views relationships and how the world thinks we should live. We should look to what Jesus says about how to live in singleness. 1 Corinthians 7:25-40 reminds us of the blessing that singleness can bring. If being single is causing you to be burdened, then you are not walking in the fullness of what the gospel leads us to. There are clear struggles that marriage can potentially bring according to 1 Corinthians. This does not mean marriage is bad, but rather pointing singles to take full advantage of the opportunity you have to give so much of your time and who you are to Jesus. Soon, you will have to share this time with your spouse. You will never get this back once you are married.
There are many reasons that cause people to be single or alone. It is important to understand that if you are alone right now, that your trust should be fully in God. If you are trying to control the situation, you will never be satisfied. We must let go and fully allow God to be sovereign (Jeremiah 29:11). We need to realize that we don't need a relationship with another person more than we need a relationship with God.
The most encouraging thing is that we don't have to wait for Christ's love. His grace is enough to remain in Him as we wait for the relationship God has predestined for us. Christ loves us more than we could ever imagine. Our hope should be in Christ and what He was done for us, not in the hope of another person besides Him. It’s okay to desire a relationship with another person, but it should not take precedent or become something that has been placed before God.
Psalms 37:4 says to “Delight yourself in the Lord, and He will give you the desires of your heart.” Do not lose hope today. It is okay to have this desire for marriage. Don't feel bad if this is a longing you feel. However, our ultimate joy cannot be found in a relationship between sinful humans. True joy can only be found in Christ and who He is. Put your delight in the Lord above any other desire, and, as your desires conform to His, He will in turn give you the desires of your heart. God will bless you beyond your own imagination.
Don't focus on waiting, but focus on trusting. Ask God to renew your ability to trust Him today in all things. Be encouraged as you live this out. Do not endure this alone. Be involved in church groups, serve teams, and weekly gatherings. Trust in Him as you surround yourself with the encouragement of the body of Christ.